Relationships


Hello Families! One of the tender situations that clients share with me is when, interrupted in some fashion by their beloved ones, the client erupts in rage or overwhelm towards them. Like when their child or partner is greeting them, asking them for help, or demanding their attention. And the client responds not in kindness, but in hostility, irritation, and resentment. What comes out is usually a rigid, intense, angry dismissal....

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This note is dedicated in loving memory to Stanley Kubrick and to all of our long lost friends. Hello Families! Stanley Kubrick is the greatest or one of the greatest photographers of all time. He showed the world the infinite possibilities of science fiction and cinema. His filmography is vast and includes: Dr. Strangelove Or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying And Love The Bomb; and 2001: A Space Odyssey. It was noted by Steven...

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Hello Families! In a simple way, the part of us that is capable of limitless possibility is the neuron. Your bodies have a limitless capacity to heal. We are not like starfish; if we lose an arm it will not grow back (the exciting exception to this are stem cells.) However, just like our skin grows new cells to repair an injury, our brains can grow new neurons. How is this possible? Through new experiences in relationship. The key to...

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Hello Families! Neuroscience and modern innovations in psychotherapy are now confirming that psychological trauma can be healed. There are now more than 300 therapy practices that are recognized as empirically valid in the United States for the treatment of trauma. One such valid trauma treatment practice is called Internal Family Systems. According to Richard Schwartz, a leading trauma theoretician and founder of the Internal Family...

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Hello, families! The first installment of this series talked about understanding and communicating what your needs are in a relationship. This second part deals with trust and flexibility in your relationship. Are you willing to make the changes I need? Am I willing to make the changes you need? This question comes from the pre-marital checklist from Integrated Therapeutic Solutions. A relationship requires an ability to change....

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Hello Families! Here’s a story about relationships: A couple came to a pre-marital counseling session. They had been talking about marriage and how they felt closer to taking this step in their lives. They had been together for several years. They both said they felt safe and happy together. They wanted to do their marriage right, not repeat some of the painful things they saw their parents and friends do in their marriages....

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